Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.If your answer is something like “to find the one”, you’re gonna come across as needy.
Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Here are the most common questions and my answers to each.
Why bend over backwards to make someone you barely know happy? A prime example of this is a guy who brings a girl flowers on the first date.
A nice gesture, but how do you know she deserves them? Some women might be wondering if having sex too soon is scaring guys away.
It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?
How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
If you have a question about moving from casual dating to a serious relationship that I didn’t answer, leave a comment below the article and I’ll get back to you within a couple days.