One divorced man of my age, who has been on these sites for six years, said that the first woman he met was £50,000 in debt, another wanted him to give her £350 to get her car out of the garage and a third hadn’t mentioned that she had severely impaired vision — the ultimate blind date.Another man said that he met somebody who seemed great and they got on so well that they arranged to go on a holiday to South Africa together.
This meant he was left to pay for the whole trip, so he went on his own because it was too late to cancel.
Both men and women seeking older partners on the internet report that meeting dates in the flesh usually means confronting a reality which falls far short of the attractive images cultivated online.
It’s a common trick for daters of a certain age to post photos that are years old — and not always of themselves.
Many have children or grandchildren living with them that they don’t tell you about until you meet them.
I couldn’t even face drinking a cup of coffee there, let alone anything else. At least 25 per cent of men who go onto these sites are married and wanting a fling rather than a serious relationship.
The word ‘separated’ can often be translated as ‘still living in the family home and sleeping with my wife’.
We had arranged to meet in a pub opposite Reading Station.
But just before I was due to set off, he rang to say he had changed his mind. Online dating for older people sounds such a good idea, and ever more of us are signing up in the hope of meeting a wonderful new partner.
None seemed to have any of the extra pounds that actually counted, namely money.
I read that they were ‘mortgage slaves’ — at 60 plus! Not only did he expect me to buy my own drinks — I’m old-fashioned enough to believe that a man should pay on the first date — but it turned out he had huge baggage.
Many immigrant groups have racially distanced themselves from Blacks due to anti-Black prejudice and stigma.