But other people feel the need get out there and meet anew partner. Emotionally you might still be feeling very vulnerable. An emotional rejection can plunge you back into the depths of despair.
So dating after you've been widowed is something to be treated with extreme caution.
That is why the first year or two of grief is the most crucial.
He no longer feels worthy of the wonderful love the GOW brings, so he begins to withdraw from her.
He is looking for someone to blame for his overwhelming feelings of grief..sadly, it is the GOW who takes the brunt of it.
Some people might even begin to entertain the idea of dating again.
Others might never feel like falling in love again after they've been widowed.
This is when a W takes two steps forward, one step back, limping along his grief journey and confusing the new love of his life as he attempts to complete his grief work while also trying to balance that with new love....a verrrrry difficult and confusing thing for any survivor, and equally as confusing to his new love (you).
When unresolved/delayed grief collides with new love, the W can suddenly turn into someone you don't recognize.But grief is like an insolent child - it WILL have its way, bar nothing.Thus, the giddy emotions of new love eventually collide with the insolence of grief when grief plays "catch up" and forces the survivor to get back on the road to recovery.You don’t ‘get over’ the man, though you do after a year or two get over the death; but you have to learn to live in another country in which you’re an unwilling refugee.” After six months or so, friends and family who have supported you through the first difficult months might start to drift away and get on with their own lives – thinking that the worst should surely now be over.Your grief will begin to settle a bit like a stone in the bottom of your stomach.Some days you might even wake up and begin to feel happy again.