When I only had my daughter four days out of the month, it was easy to just plan our dates and adventures around those days.
But once I suddenly had her half the time, it became almost impossible for us to make plans together.
Because of this, finding a potential partner to have a serious relationship with was not a priority for me until about the time I began dating my last girlfriend.
We started dating casually, but we fell for each other hard and fast.
Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.
But it’s not cool to pay lip service to intentions of growing a serious, long-term relationship and from the onset demote your lover to second-rank — even before you message her on
In the four years since the birth of my daughter and the end of my relationship with her mother, I have done some dating.
Most of that dating was fairly casual, but I have been in a couple relationships—the most recent and most serious of those relationships having lasted just under two years. Or at least I realize now looking back on it just how easy it was.
You can live your life, go out on dates, and pretty much do whatever you want within the confines of the law for 26 days out of the month.
Easy or not, the majority of those four years, I was battling some fairly serious depression and anxiety due primarily to the minimal time I was able to spend with my daughter and the ongoing conflict with her mother.
It wasn’t long before we were discussing where we wanted to live when we moved in together, how we would integrate our families, and what our wedding would be like.