With my younger guy, the worth of my life experience is a given and my advice is actually valued.
Our 20s are a difficult and formative time, so from my older perspective, being able to aid the journey of someone I love is very rewarding. The people we surround ourselves with encourage different elements of ourselves that can have a huge impact on how our personalities are cultivated over time.
I am in my mid-forties and I have been online dating off and on for about 2½ years and dating in general for 4 years.
I am a year and a half out of a relationship and in that time, I have found only one guy I was interested in but he did the vanishing act.
The younger millennial male has come of age in a post-recession era, so their expectations of traditional ‘success’ are more realistic.
They’ve grown up with the digital revolution so they’re more open and accepting of social development.
He’s not even thinking about settling down and there’s no pressure to do so, which takes a huge weight off. Unfortunately, the struggle for relationship equality is real for many of us.
During my last relationship, I was bored of having to break down the barrier of toxic masculinity before my ex would accept the benefit of my input, especially in typically male dominated areas.
), there are thousands of other instances of cross-generational relationships that die a quick, painless death. Because he was born in the 80’s, right about the time that you were losing your virginity in college. This is a valid concern to men looking to have families, so let’s not overlook it. It just seems far more likely that a) he’s bragging to his friends that he might get to sleep with a woman 20 years older than himself, or b) you guys really might be compatible if only he were significantly older or you were significantly younger. A caveat which I must acknowledge: if neither of you desires children, then you have a far better chance.
Because he’s been in the workforce for oh, about four years. But still, I’m a big proponent of life experience and wisdom. So even if this young man’s interest in you is completely pure, even if he wants to have a real relationship with you, you guys are most likely doomed. But presuming he does, if I were you, Carla, I’d probably have some fun. Maybe not all of them, and maybe not this particular guy, but most guys in their 20s think an older woman is easier and hornier than women their own age.
Because he may be a great communicator, mature for his age, and relationship minded, but he’s also, y’know, a BABY. Go in with your eyes open and appreciate the experience for what it is – a dalliance with the youthful exuberance of your past. “What do guys in their twenties really expect and/or want when contacting an older woman? That’s what I thought when I was a schmucky 20 something, and so did my friends.