Think again.“We need to know the intimate functioning of the psyche of the person we’re planning to marry.We need to know their attitudes to, or stance on, authority, humiliation, introspection, sexual intimacy, projection, money, children, aging, fidelity and a hundred things besides.
" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person? We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way?
You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it.
Thank God I learned that the best relationships ARE easy. Just wanted to say that your advice is always spot on!
After 2.5 years of dating, I married my husband a few months ago – and it was because he consistently was kind, generous, and forgiving.
This knowledge won’t be available via a standard chat.” This is one of many reasons I advocate that you date for 2 to 2 1/2 years (and move in together) before getting married, instead of getting married simply because you’re “in love” and you “just know”.
Yet you can’t really help what you’re attracted to.If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship.Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you.As for our friends, they predictably don’t care enough about us to have any motive to probe our real selves. Therefore, we end up blind to the awkward sides of our natures.” Amen.Humility is a huge part of relationships, and I don’t hear anyone talking about it.It’s always about what kind of person you’re looking for, not what kind of person you’re being.