Follow me on Twitter @therealdrsean for relationship commentary/links as well as complaints about mass transit.Continue to follow this blog for future entries about deception, online dating, using affection to lie, workplace romance, and other issues that make obtaining and retaining a mate oh so interesting. Horan, First of all, thank you for writing such an insightful article.Midway through the evening, we interrupted dates asking participants to make a brief introduction and then to stop their date.
Or, the date where you showed up at a guy’s house only to be surprised that his entire family was there?
Even worse, how about when your first date says, “I love you” and/or discusses “our” kids (yes, this happens).
A thin slice involves brief exposure, typically less than 30 seconds, to behavior.
Studies indicate that judgments made by strangers based on thin slices are consistent with evaluations of individuals who are familiar with the stranger.
These results are especially important given the long line of research indicating that thin slice judgments are consistent with long-term impressions. Houser, our quantitative findings further supported our open-ended responses.
Nonverbal immediacy (e.g., smiling, eye contact, open body orientation) along with social and physical attraction helped explain individuals’ beliefs about relational development.
Essentially then, when first meeting someone, the advice is clear and simple: smile and make eye contact.
Of course, the caveat is that you smile naturally and make an appropriate amount of eye contact…a constant smile and unwavering eye contact can convey creepiness and an unintended level of social awkwardness.
With these painful memories in mind, now imagine that the terrible date lasted less than 10 minutes.