Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.
Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?
Currently I co-run a longitudinal study of marriage and family development, started in 2008 and ongoing, and the answers couples gave me about their engagement ranged from several months to several years.
Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?
Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.
Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
These couples usually made it to their seventh anniversary before divorcing sometime later.If not, you may find yourself like Jennifer Aniston’s character in Bruce Almighty (she repeats this long-suffering role in “He’s Just not that Into You”) whose boyfriend needs literal divine intervention from God to get him to propose.In real life God doesn’t make such obvious house calls.What are the issues that might be holding him back?Are these worth addressing, accepting, or rejecting?I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.