The right balance, for those not called to singleness and celibacy, is to look for someone of spiritual compatibility, but to understand from the start that this is someone with whom you will share hardship and struggles as much as the much-advertised (literally) delights of Christian marriage. No matter how perfect the match, this is going to require some work.Each newsletter will update you on what’s happening in the world of American religious and political history.However, it will more than likely be from the wrong type of guy.
As such, you shouldn’t be afraid or ashamed to proclaim your love for Him on your profile. And, if possible, try to go with a real telephone conversation (remember those?! Yeah, it’s super old-school, but you’ll learn so much more by listening to his voice.10. When it’s time to take things offline and finally meet in person, you’ll know.
To ensure your safety (and, to be fair, his as well), suggest meeting in a very public, well-lit location (e.g., Starbucks or a local restaurant).
If you have an irrational obsession with mini-ponies or if you’ve traveled the world, have fun with it! If you come across a guy who piques your interest, it’s totally okay to reach out first to get the ball rolling.7. Christians understand the importance of telling the truth, and this rule definitely deserves a place here.
These facts will spark curiosity and give these guys a real reason to send that first message.5. One of the downsides of online dating is that guys (and girls) have the luxury of lying about anything and everything. Many women approach online dating thinking that guys should do ALL the work. Please, please, please tell the truth in your profile.
Also, if possible, avoid meeting for the first time at night. Don’t do anything that you don’t feel comfortable doing. Stay true to yourself and to your values, and just have fun with the process!
If you’ve picked out a good one, he’ll be more than understanding of your concerns. SPECIAL NOTE: Not sure if online dating is for you?They’ll lie about their height, their education and even their name! It doesn’t help to lie or to withhold important information.The quickest way to get to the truth is by asking your good friend Google. For example, if you’re 4’6″, don’t write that you’re 5’3″.Unfortunately, this isn’t quite reality for anyone…except, of course, Cinderella! Some dating sites, like Christian Mingle, are great.For the rest of us hopeless romantics, we can either wait to meet our Prince Charming in person or explore alternative options, like online dating. Others, like Tinder, should be avoided at ALL COSTS! Tinder is like that dark, hyena-filled territory to which Mufasa warned Simba never to go. It provides a sneak preview to your potential suitor and invites him to visit your page to learn more.But I wonder if our approach to dating in evangelical circles implies that if you can just find the right match, wedded bliss will follow, with no thought toward the struggles or suffering that inevitably come via changing circumstances, family problems, or the garden-variety consequences of sin.