It feels sometimes that we are more tolerant of someone who robs a bank than someone who has sex outside of a relationship.
Truth be told, I feel like if it were not cheating, it would have been drinking or drugs, probably at a much higher cost to my immediate family.
For me, it’s a form of self-medicating a traumatic childhood. He was obsessed with porn early in our marriage to an unhealthy level, he neglects me, he doesn’t consult me for major decisions, he is often far away, etc.
I am recently married and found out that my wife is having an affair.
To be more accurate, continuing an 8 year affair she had been having with her married co-worker. I confronted her about the message because they were very sexually explicit; things she didn’t even express to me.
I cry, I scream into my pillow, I feel a rush of anxiety that I can only fix by pouring myself into work.
I wonder why I cannot stop entirely, or just end my marriage. Then I feel like a coward for calling myself damaged.
Karthik was booked by the Bangalore Police on charges of rape and cheating following a complaint by a Kannada actor he had been courting for the past four months.
The actor has accused 28-year-old Karthik of marrying and dumping her after his family objected to their relationship.I found out about the relationship initially via her instant messages before we got married. She indicated to me that it was “fantasy” and said it was in-appropriate conversations and it would not happen again.Whenever I would come in a room, she would scramble to close windows on the computer. She then got on me about the whole trust and snooping issue but the thing s, when I asked her straight out if something was going on with this guy, she lied and told me nothing and that she wasn’t even attracted to this guy, and then I spied and found out otherwise.I don’t wish to defend my actions, simply to explain them, which is something I feel so blocked from doing without an extreme level of judgement. It is not to glorify affairs, or to plead my case and show the world that “not all cheaters are bad.” If anything, it’s to say this: There is no one standard profile of a cheater.We are not all sex addicts, heartless men, or women looking for “missing love.” Sometimes cheating is a side effect of a much larger, more broken picture, but stigma prevents an open dialogue. Patent and Trademark Office as a trademark of Salon Media Group Inc.Like I’m not strong enough to just admit I’m a bad person.