Other useful takeaways: •Happily married couples shared many traits, including courtships that progressed smoothly toward marriage with little drama; their courtships had a quiet, romantic feeling, but as important, they sensed they were marrying someone who could be a good friend.•Unhappily married couples had low-key courtships that moved forward slowly because either one or both of the partners lacked much warmth or had difficult personalities.
•The birth of a child transforms couples’ lifestyles, but it does not change the feelings husbands or wives have about each other.
•All marriages, even those that are happy in the long run, show declines over the first two years in marriage in the following categories: sex, overt displays of affection, and leisure activities spent together. But everything you read there, you could also have read here. My biggest takeaway is that if the courtship is smooth, the marriage will be as well.
“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.
(The average length of courtships in the study was two years, four months)…Speed can become a problem when it is driven by romance and fantasy because, unless one is extraordinarily lucky, the suitors discover that the partner was not as lovely as they had imagined.
As a matter of fact, here are eight couples who met online or through dating apps that give us total #relationshipgoals.
Jennifer and Benjamin, Tinder Jennifer wasn’t looking for anything serious when she was casually swiping through Tinder while visiting her mother in Philadelphia—after all, she lived in New York. Liz and Chris, Ok Since neither Rachel nor Eric were very serious about online dating, they didn’t jump at the opportunity to meet right away, but once they did “it was like being around an old friend,” Rachel says. Joelle and David, It wasn’t easy for Tiffany and Luke to meet after they connected online because she was living in Colorado and he was in Australia.Technology" data-blog-content="false" data-content-tags="["e3ff7bbd-251d-473b-9e26-967d9e0f3a6a", "de0df316-39fa-4a86-9df2-c69e9afeb738", "faa3afa1-a302-4b22-b4e3-a00e996d0402"]" data-singular-terms="["Wedding Etiquette","Getting Engaged","Technology"]" data-content-hub-id="" data-content-strategy-type="editorial" data-content-series="" Say what you will about the millennial app-heavy dating scene, but no one can deny that there are engagements coming out of swiping and messaging.Tinder has more than 26 million matches per day, Happn has been connecting strangers who cross paths since 2014, JDate has over 80 pages of “success stories” on their site, and now Hinge completely redesigned its app’s platform in an attempt to only connect people who are looking for long-term relationships.•Delayed-action divorces (“Hollywood Romance Group”) had highly romantic courtships, but their affection declined considerably over the first few years of marriage.They were labeled “delayed-action” divorcers because they stayed married for at least seven years, long after the passion that led them to marry had dissipated.•The extent of differences in tastes and ideas among couples does not predict divorce.