It may be old-fashioned, but keeping adults in the mix is a great way to slow things down.Related: Two Questions Your Middle Schooler Has About Puberty and Love (and How to Answer Them) Kids in middle school mature at vastly different rates.It’s a very concrete litmus test for daily, minute-by-minute decisions. What will each and every decision say about who I am to the people around me?
This was before he had moved into his courtship teachings and even before anyone we knew of had started discussing things like courtship and betrothal.
In fact, courtship, to us, was how our grandparents and sometimes even our parents would refer to meeting, getting to know, and preparing to marry each other.
adds that "The age for dating is different [in] every family," and that much depends on a particular child's level of preparedeness.
She suggests parents sit down with their pre-teens to discuss the issue calmly, before it even comes up.
What if he or she isn’t mature enough to know how to say no?
- What if the emotional side of dating scars my child or sets them up for future bad relationships?
Instead of banning people, think about banning activities.
You might say, “I’m not okay with you going on a date, or labeling this person your boyfriend/girlfriend, but it’s fine to get to know this person better through texts.” If your middle schooler has a stubborn infatuation, invite their new friend to have dinner with your family.
- What if my child gets a bad reputation for dating early?