Like it will somehow lead us to a place of confidence and clarity. It will lead you in the opposite direction, rather, and cause you to feel even more uncertain and insecure.
Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much? When you care too much, you inevitably become attached to a certain outcome.
The next step is to get to the root of it and figure out how to solve it.
For example, let’s say you start seeing a new guy and things are going great. You feel a sense of dread deep in your gut and you know, you just know, that he’s never coming back.
You talk regularly, go on fun dates, it seems to be going really well. Meanwhile, in boy land, he’s been really slammed at work and has barely had a minute to come up for air.
It is not there to serve you and give you things like happiness and self-esteem.
It is not there to make you feel good about life and about yourself.Maybe you’d like to go on dates more regularly or see him a few times during the week.Tell yourself that you will be fine with things for the time being, and if nothing changes in two weeks, then you can be upset about it and deal with it.This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.It will help you gain control over your thoughts and your mood, and this will be of major benefit to you and your relationship. Be present The biggest problem with stressing over your relationship is it takes you out of the relationship and brings you to a much more disturbing place. When you go on a date with a guy, whether it’s the first or the fiftieth, all you should be thinking about is enjoying your time with him and building a connection.This isn’t to say a relationship can’t do these things, it’s just that these aren’t the elements upon which a healthy relationship is built. A relationship is an experience to be had and shared.